A preliminary research conducted on the issue of late marriage among Lagos residents has revealed that the current decapitated economic condition is a strong impediment to settling down.
This is not the best of times for single ladies whose ages are close to the menopausal stage in Lagos as suitors are not forthcoming due to the economic situation in the country.
Most men that are due for marriage are reluctant to settle down due to the uncertainty in the future of marriages which has thrown the fate of some single women into jeopardy.
Investigations carried out by P.M.EXPRESS revealed that single ladies between the ages of between 35 and above 40 were under intense pressure from their families to get married.
Some of the men who spoke to a correspondent said they were either not ready or were not going for marriage because they fear they will not be able to cope with the financial responsibilities attached to marriage.
Though, there were no available data that showed that men were not going for marriage because of economic hardship but the general consensus indicated such development.
39 year old Mary Onazi revealed that she stopped going to her parents due to the pressure of marriage from them.
She said it was not that she does not want to marry, “where’s the man?” she asked.
Miss Onazi also said that she has tried everything practically possible to attract a man for marriage but most of them declined and always gave excuses that they are not ready for marriage.
Miss Nkechi Azubuike, 37 also shared her experience that she had hope in God for a suitor but she had had her heart broken by several men who pretended they wanted to marry her but only conned her.
Azubuike said she fell into those traps because of the pressure she was getting from her family. “Now I have dedicated my service to God, If I see husband, fine. If i don’t see glory be to God”
41-year old Sherry Onyejeke also said that she has stopped seeing her parents and members of her family who felt betrayed because she had not gotten a husband.
She said she has been a victim of marriage con due to the pressure she was getting from her family and have resorted to her fate. She narrated that some of the single men were lazy and do not have courage to embark on marriage because they want an already-made money.
She maintained that she will not force herself on any man for marriage. Hence, decided to be alone for now.
Some married women who spoke to a correspondent said the pride of any woman was to get married and you cannot blame the pressure coming from families of such single ladies.
An elderly woman by the name Mrs Agnes Nwoke told correspondents that any lady who doesn’t settle down when expected is treated as an outcast to the family.
She also said the long courtship between people dating is due to the increase of failed marriages and this has led a lot of men to be very mindful of their lady’s conduct before jumping into marriage with them.
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